i have been neglecting writing here because i got myself a chinese blog, that i wrote everything in chinese. Although, i am a singaporean, whereby singaporean basically converse in English, i still love my base as a chinese and being able to write and converse well in Chinese. That's why i got myself a chinese blog which is popular in Taiwan.
The reasons for chinese blog is because, firstly i want to improve in my chinese, secondly some feelings are better expressed in Chinese, thirdly hoping that i will get to know some Taiwanese friends through this blog. haha...
will you bend your principle to deem fit your life, or let your principle make your life worse? in my case, i chose the secondary. because, if any were to choose the first one, i will just have to let you know, that are not principle in your life, that are rules in your life that can be change in time down the road. Principles will not vary that much if your view in life never change. These are principles that i greatly abide myself to, if i have no principles in life, i am not me. i think principles are a very important criteria anyone must have. it might be obstacles in your path, but if you bend those principles of yours, it might be your view of certain things has changed or it could be that you were wrong with the definition of principles.
i was a person without principles, meaning "everything goes". but not now, she thought me what is principles, she showed me how strong we should stick to our principle. cos partly it identify who you are. And i want to be who i am. Ever since, i know what principles are, i am not easy going anymore.
i used to be like this (1986 - 2007):
i want to be lovable in everyone's eyes
i want to be nice to everyone, so that they will say nice things about me
i want everyone to have a good impression of me
i want everyone to think that i am nice
i want everyone to like me
i want everyone that wants me to be their friends
that was me which is equivalent as "a very fake person". because i am doing things that i don't like just to please everyone else, for them to be nice to me, for them to like me, for them to want me to be their friends. That was the past. I do not hate the past me, because i am who i am. I have changed for the better, i have learned how to be me and i have got the answer.
I am on my own now, i do not have my wise dictionary anymore. I have to ask myself alot of questions in order to get the answer. but in any ways, she played an important role in my learning and growing process. Because i am tired to be the nice person, to be the fake person, to be the person that pleases everyone but myself. i am happy to be on my own, because then i will know if i am able to deal with things that i thought was impossible for me. Thank you, sunshine. Please shine everywhere you go......
if i only have 70% of trust in you, is that still consider friends?
by gwenny